Practice having a strong opinion.

 Practice having a strong

opinion.

 

When you find yourself

about to say, “Oh, I don’t care,

we can do whatever you want,”

instead pick something -

randomly if you have to - and say

“I’d like to do this.” Practice this

for just one week and you’ll be

amazed at what happens. It may

seem silly and pointless, especially

if you’re just choosing randomly

instead of actually expressing a

real opinion, but it makes a huge,

even transformative difference.

When we say that we don’t have

an opinion, we’re telling ourselves

that our opinions don’t matter,

which in turn tells us that we don’t

matter. When we state a strong

opinion, even if it’s random, we’re

telling ourselves, “I’m important.

I do matter.” And when those

opinions are honored by others,

we get the message that others

value us and respect us.

Much of this happens under the

surface, which is why it works

even if you think it’s silly.